Is the grass greener on the other side?

How many times have couples thought about leaving the marriage?

If the grass is greener it will only be greener for one season!

God has designed for you and your spouse to be joined together. We as humans always think we know whats best. Then all of a sudden we mess everything up. Let God work through each of us and allow Him to strengthen us. Ask God to bless your marriage, your spouse and you. Admit your sins and ask God for forgiveness.

When couples are unhappy in marriage they think divorce is the answer. They think the grass is greener on the other side. It is not always the other person that has the problems it is YOU. Take a look at yourself, are you doing right, are you honoring your spouse? I am sure we can all think about it and see the flaws we each have to work on.

Divorce is not the answer, getting your marriage on track is the answer! God says he hates divorce! Please Read:

Malachi 2:16 (NIV) “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.

What we need to be doing is asking ourself and our spouse, “what can I do to make this marriage better”? It is possible to take a bad marriage and make it a positive, happy, loving marriage. Marriage is not rocket science, we just need to really love one another. Before you can love someone else you must love yourself.

1 Corinthians 7:27 (NIV) Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Lord, I ask that you place your arms around married couples today and give them the strength to fix and restore troubled marriages. Touch their hearts and bring them together as one. AMen

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A Rocky Marriage

In marriage today it is too easy to walk out. When things get rocky people want to run. This is not the answer.

The answer is to grow up. Sit down together, talk about the problems and how the two of you can fix the problems you are facing. It may be beyond the two of you, I would suggest talking with someone from a church or a biblical counselor. “I would stay away from the standard marriage counselors, family and friends”.

If your marriage is on the rocks it is time to get serious and sweep the rocks up. Talk with your spouse and find out what they need from you to help this marriage out. It takes two to make a marriage work and both parties are to blame when it fails.

One question to ask each other:

1. What do you need from me right now?

Be honest about the answer you give and make sure it is important for yourself and the marriage. If you just throw an answer out there you will get nowhere. Pick a top 3 most important problems you want fixed in the marriage and work on them.

Pray together as a couple, pick the best time that works for the both of you. For my wife and I it is at bedtime. Couples that pray together, stay together.

1 Corinthians 7 (NIV)

The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that you give couples the strength to come before you and ask for help in marriage. Give them the ability to talk to one another and talk from the heart. I pray for your hand in their time of need to comfort them and direct them. Amen

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Date Night

Date night is very important between married couples. Date night allows couples to get away and spend one on one time with each other. It does not mean spending a lot of money or going somewhere fancy.

Date night does not have to be costly. It may be as simple making up a basket and going to the park for some quiet time. The point is to focus on each other and communicate. One of the biggest issues in a marriage today is the lack of communication. Some men need help in this department.

Make date night fun, talk about key points you see in each other and make it a time to lift each other up in praise. Play a game that you both like or make up your own. Set ground rules if needed and follow them. Example “we do not talk about work on date night”.

When children come in your marriage ask a family member to watch the child / children of a short time. This allows a child to get use to being with someone else and allows you to get use to letting go. As time goes on hire a babysitter allowing you and your spouse one on one time. I feel this is the hardest thing for parents to do.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Lord, I ask that you give all parents the strength to find time to give to one another. Allow them the time to focus on date night and giving quality time towards each other. Amen

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This may be a touchy subject for some. Let me say right from the start that PORN in a marriage is not healthy. There is nothing good about porn in your marriage.

Porn is degrading to your spouse and it takes away the ability for you to give 100% respect. When you watch porn your mind thinks and acts in a different way. The mind gets this image of how things should be in the bedroom. The private time and place with your spouse should be for the both of you to enjoy. This is a special time for the two of you to be focused on each other.

When watching porn you are allowing a third party to join you in your relationship. You replace your spouse with another image or someone else mentally. God designed marriage to be between one man and one woman. There is one third party allowed in a marriage and that is God.

Women have enough issues to deal with in everyday life. The TV is filled with how women should look and act. The clothing stores have these plastic models in the window displaying how women should dress. The way society is displaying women is sad. If you walk the mall you will see mothers dressed like their daughters. I am not against looking good and sexy, but good and sexy can be done in a tactful way. There is so much skin being shown out in public anymore that it is degrading to the female gender.

Matthew 5:27-28 (NIV)
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, I ask that you place your hand upon those who struggle with porn in the marriage. I ask that they might realize that this is not good for the marriage and start putting the spouse above all. For those who want more in their marriage, start putting your focus on your spouse and enjoy each other. Lord, I ask for strength to be given to all men and women to honor each other in marriage. Amen

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Hello, I served in the military from 1985 to 1995. I would like to dedicate this post to our military serving around the world and defending our families. I was stationed in Norfolk, VA and served aboard 3 ships, I also did a 3 year tour in Iceland.

I would like for everyone who reads this post to take a moment to pause and say a prayer for our military. We need to remember those who have given the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom. Those who have fallen to protect us, those who have served and those who are serving. The men and women serve to give us the right to be free, to serve and worship God our way. They serve to protect us and defend the United States of America. If you know someone in the military or see a military person give them a Thank You and make their day.

We need to also pray for the families of our service members. I will tell you that sometimes the stress on the family of a serving military person is greater than you can imagine. The spouse of a military member has a tough job taking care of the home front. Please remember them as well when you pause to pray.

Today’s Prayer: Dear Lord, I ask that you comfort those serving in the United States Armed Forces and protect them. Give them strength to defend the United States, keep the safe and healthy. I pray for the military families that you give them peace in their heart, comfort them and keep them safe. Amen

Thank you to all our military personnel and may God be with you and your families!

God Bless,

Lon & Becky

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